As with a lot of marriages ours has become ‘sexually vanilla’ and cold over the years. We lack passion in our relationship. She works a lot and that too can kill intimacy, but it doesn’t have to. We need something that helps us maintain a connection throughout the day. To that end a D/s relationship with daily encounters that says I’m enjoying you and later this week we’ll consummate that feeling may work for us.
How D/s Works (By: Domme Dorinda)
Control is very powerful for a Woman over a man. It changes everything in a woman’s life. It even changes things like the confidence in your relationship, confidence in everything else. You know he’s not going to leave you; you become an addiction to him, he wants to serve you more and more and more.
Now D/s is about sex – his sexual desires. The trick is to control his sex but keep him interested. It’s about not letting him release, it’s about you making him feel the need but knowing he cannot until you allow it. This is done daily throughout the day and it is a delicate balance. In a way you truly are leading him along by his penis; men do seem to think nonstop about having it pleasured. A simplified explanation is you get his dick hard and keep him there, off and on, day in and day out; at least several times a day. Trust me, he will soon serve and obey you in anticipation of you allowing him to release at a later time.
So why D/s? For one thing Domination /submission will increase the intensity of our relationship. Wifey only has to tease her husband several times a day until she sees his dick is hard for her. Most importantly from the moment Wifey becomes Domme she has 100% say over when s/Hubby may cum. He only releases when she gives permission. So no matter how often she makes his dick hard, or how bad he wants to cum, he can not release one drop of cum until she gives permission. He is dependent on her and must obey her – else no permission!
In the other direction she can force him to cum whenever she wants. She can make him masturbate for amusement, to control his urges, or just to make him cum. So if s/hubby is pestering her for sex, and she wants to watch TV, she can order him to kneel before her and masturbate; making him empty his balls on command. He has no say, he will have to release his urges and his cum when told!
With D/s she will have the say on what we do; in and out of the bedroom. In the bedroom she’ll be boss, free to try out her fantasies, and make me do unspeakable things. In return, I will enjoy being the object of her desires. And the fact that her desires are now dominant and twisted should make for interesting passion. I love my wife and would enjoy serving her. So why not let me?
Let me suggest a daily ritual to kick things off. A quick intimate moment where we enjoy this D/s power play at a few key points of the day to make s/Hubby’s dick hard:
- evenings when she comes home, and
- before going to bed
At these times of the day Domme requires a showing of respect by making me kiss it. And “It” can be:
- her pussy,
- her ass, or
- her asshole (after every bath).
For her part this ritual only requires that she Make the Command. She can then smile and enjoy my act of sexual submission to her – with no more effort on her part.