Post 1 D/s Marriage


                      Vanilla Marriage

As with a lot of marriages ours has become ‘sexually vanilla’ and cold over the years.  We lack passion in our relationship. She works a lot and that too can kill intimacy, but it doesn’t have to. We need something that helps us maintain a connection throughout the day.  To that end a D/s relationship with daily encounters that says I’m enjoying you and later this week we’ll consummate that feeling may work for us.

How D/s Works (By: Domme Dorinda)

Control is very powerful for a Woman over a man. It changes everything in a woman’s life. It even changes things like the confidence in your relationship, confidence in everything else. You know he’s not going to leave you; you become an addiction to him, he wants to serve you more and more and more.

Now D/s is about sex – his sexual desires. The trick is to control his sex but keep him interested. It’s about not letting him release, it’s about you making him feel the need but knowing he cannot until you allow it. This is done daily throughout the day and it is a delicate balance. In a way you truly are leading him along by his penis; men do seem to think nonstop about having it pleasured. A simplified explanation is you get his dick hard and keep him there, off and on, day in and day out; at least several times a day. Trust me, he will soon serve and obey you in anticipation of you allowing him to release at a later time.

 Why D/s?

So why D/s?  For one thing Domination /submission will increase the intensity of our relationship. Wifey only has to tease her husband several times a day until she sees his dick is hard for her. Most importantly from the moment Wifey becomes Domme she has 100% say over when s/Hubby may cum.  He only releases when she gives permission.  So no matter how often she makes his dick hard, or how bad he wants to cum, he can not release one drop of cum until she gives permission.  He is dependent on her and must obey her – else no permission!

In the other direction she can force him to cum whenever she wants.  She can make him masturbate for amusement, to control his urges, or just to make him cum.  So if s/hubby is pestering her for sex, and she wants to watch TV, she can order him to kneel before her and masturbate; making him empty his balls on command.  He has no say, he will have to release his urges and his cum when told!

With D/s she will have the say on what we do; in and out of the bedroom.  In the bedroom she’ll be boss, free to try out her fantasies, and make me do unspeakable things. In return, I will enjoy being the object of her desires.  And the fact that her desires are now dominant and twisted should make for interesting passion.   I love my wife and would enjoy serving her.   So why not let me?


Respect Ritual

Let me suggest a daily ritual to kick things off. A quick intimate moment where we enjoy this D/s power play at a few key points of the day to make s/Hubby’s dick hard:

  • mornings,
  • evenings when she comes home, and
  • before going to bed

At these times of the day Domme requires a showing of respect by making me kiss it. And “It” can be:

  • her pussy,
  • her ass, or
  • her asshole (after every bath).

For her part this ritual only requires that she Make the Command. She can then smile and enjoy my act of sexual submission to her – with no more effort on her part.


Post 2 Rituals

D/s Rituals

It is said that D/s starts out more as  -fantasy than reality-  but over time  – repetition changes fantasy to reality.

Last Night

I am very proud of my wife.  After reading Post 1 she was very sweet and loving. She asked for a massage and I obeyed. Normally I would never give a massage at night. She talked dirty to me (which I like) and was dominating in her topics.   I love her ♥

I have a little learning to do yet. The first time she asked me to empty my balls I did not want to end it as I was having too much fun. To maintain respect she’ll eventually have to give some small discipline for not obeying her.  Eventually she told me to empty them again and I complied. I have to learn to listen to her and obey. She owns my balls.  Next time she tells me to empty my balls I will obey. She’s Domme, she decides when I cum, not me !




Daily Greetings

Kissing her ass acknowledges daily that she is my wife and Domme. It maintains her dominance over me. This ritual creates a sensual and lasting connection with her. It is her demanding that I do it that makes my dick hard.  It is a fun tease and over time she’ll enjoy the feeling of being Domme, of making me press my lips against her asshole and of watching me submit to her.

Note:  I couldn’t help but notice that in the second photo Domme decided to cage her bitch so he could only focus on her clit, her pleasure, and her orgasm.  Hmmm  . . maybe  s/Hubby wasn’t’ listening to her commands and needed a little obedience training?

Post 3 s/Hubby 1 -vs- Domme 0

In the Bedroom

We had fun. I massaged her again and she enjoyed it. She had me suck and lick her clit which I was honored to do. She had us finish with a 69 and a strong orgasm that ended with my nose on her asshole and her clit pulsating in my mouth. She cum’s harder when she feels my nose on her asshole. But she told me she wants my nose softly on her asshole.

I think she likes making me smell her scent while she comes in my mouth . . .  it is very dominating and it makes my cock hard.  But the turn on is her wanting and making me to do it.

Thereafter, I started fucking her and she got lost in the moment. Only after I shot my load did she remember that she was Domme and that she forgot to make me cum on her orders.

Sometimes Domme wins . .  and sometimes s/Hubby wins 🙂



Out of the Bedroom

Domme is liking the ass kissing ritual. Each time I kiss her ass she smiles.  When she remembers to order it on her own it makes my dick hard.


Final Note: Scent Training

Part of the fun of D/s is for the Domme to amuse herself by physically dominating her willing bitch.  In these two pictures both Domme’s are scent training their bitches.  These pictures make me horny.

The Domme in the lower picture looks like she is going to have her bitch masturbate to her scent.  The Domme in the upper picture is scent training and marking her bitch on the nose.   He’ll have to know Domme’s scent until she allows him to wash; maybe not till after several hours; whatever amuses her.



The Five Senses

Domme’s link their s/Hubby’s five sense to themselves sexually.  This has a powerful effect on s/Hubby.  This way he’ll only think of her when he is horny; even when he masturbates:

Hearing:  If Domme is regularly giving sexual commands during sex and teasing –  he will associate her commands, her voice, and her as a woman, with his sexual desire and only hear Domme’s voice when he thinks of sex or masturbates.

Smell:  If Domme scent trains and makes s/Hubby smell her scent while she cums, or while she makes him masturbate, or as a tease while she watches TV, or marks him with the scent of her ass or womanhood (pussy) as a tease and for dominance  – then he will associate Domme’s smells with sex and only think of her smells when he thinks of sex or masturbates.

Taste/sight/touch:  The same principals apply to the taste and sight and feel of her ass and pussy, as well as her cum.  He will associate his sexual desire with them and only think of her when he is horny or masturbates.

Post 4 Limits

In the Bedroom

I came to bed naked and waited by Domme’s side.  I was there for her pleasure and she would decides when to take me. She was very sweet, put her leg on top of me, rubbed my skin gently, and then asked me for a massage and I obliged. She then asked to see my cock and started to suck it. She gave my balls a good squeeze while giving me head just to let me know she was Domme. After going down on her she had us 69. I softly rubbed my nose on her asshole and it must have made her feel dominate because see immediately took control and slapped her bitch’s ass while grabbing both cheeks.  When she cums her ass cheeks tighten up keeping my nose firmly against her asshole.  So I once again I experienced Domme’s scent while her clit pulsated in my mouth  . . . very dominate.

Before fucking I went down and cleaned up; licking her cum from her hole while she relaxed.  Finally, we finished with her face down, ass up.  When Domme was ready to enjoy my orgasm she ordered me to empty my balls on her command; having me cum on the count of seven – I obeyed.  I must admit her scent kept me thinking only of her, even while cumming.  It has a powerful effect.




We had dinner at a restaurant and saw another couple with their mother-in-law. There also was another younger couple there and the girl was wearing a necklace with a key. I wonder if she was a Domme? Her and her husband looked happy, and she was the dominate one.  I bet she makes him do unspeakable things 🙂    Nonetheless, this got me to thinking I would never want others to know of our private D/s marriage.

Post 5 Balls

In the Bedroom

We had a very nice time.  Domme was happy and confident.  By the time I had finished sucking her clit she was quite aggressive.  She wanted her bitch’s balls.  She demanded I bring my balls over to her so she could bite them.  I was not used to such confidence and seductive sexual aggression; it was exhilarating to feel it.  I couldn’t be happier that she was in control.  But now I was a little scared.  How hard was she going to bite them?  I now had to submit to her will with no questions asked – so I obeyed.  I put my balls in her mouth and closed my eyes.  She was great, a little rough with them, very dominate, but happy and sucking on them with the occasional hard squeeze to make her bitch moan out-loud for her. She finished by cumming with a 69.  Then as I spread her legs, this time with no resistance, I heard her say, “you’re going to clean up.”

She said it partly as a question,  but also as an acknowledgment of her s/Hubby’s submission to her.  I licked her hole and swallowed her cum, every drop.  She was so great, I was happy to sleep with her cum in my belly.



From what I have read there is a difference between discipline and punishment.  Discipline is part of the D/s play.  It is used regularly to establish dominance by a Domme while at the same time encouraging submissive feelings in s/Hubby towards his Domme.  It is used in one form or another to encourage domination and submission by the players (D/s).  Funny thing is, they say it starts out more as  -fantasy than reality-  but over time repetition changes it more to -reality than fantasy-  hmm?

If you look you’ll see a smirk on the housewife’s face down below.  She is showing off her her bitch’s ass as well as her handiwork.  She enjoyed it.  She used her bitch’s ass for discipline (not punishment).  If you count the strokes it was only 15-20.  It looks worse because she used a crop instead of a paddle.  s/Hubby willing submitted to her discipline and I can guarantee he’ll have strong feelings of submission towards her for days.  And for the immediate next day or two, every single time he sits.


Of course discipline can take many forms, not just physical and not just paddling.  For example Domme may want to encourage a future behavior and cage her bitch’s cock till he submits.  It is interesting what couples have come up with.  They use Clothed Female Naked Male play.  Cloths have power.  Domme while fully dressed is in a more powerful position than her s/Hubby who she ordered to be naked from the waist down or to walk around completely naked for her amusement.  The power here is not physical but humiliation.  She made him vulnerable and he has to obey.

She can add to this Cage Play.  Now she is also controlling his cock and his mind.  He can’t get hard, the cage won’t let him.  Guys think of sex often at any time during the day.  They don’t even realize it.  They get hard, their thoughts move on, and they are soft again.  Now s/Hubby cant’ get hard and if he does he becomes uncomfortable  –  so he’ll immediately catch his thoughts and change them, which can be frustrating.   This is a powerful tool. Domme may want to encourage a future behavior and cage her bitch’s cock till he submits.  For example, every evening for a week she may make him greet her at the door, kiss her, and then order him to put his cage on and give her the key.  As added discipline she may include the humiliation of not letting him where clothes from the waste down, maybe make him sit on a towel and keep the cage visible for her viewing amusement.



Cum on the Count of Eight

When we finished last time I was supposed to cum on the count of eight.  But I didn’t make it.  She got me sooo . . horny and then counted slow.  I couldn’t make it.  I came by the count of six or seven.  No worry, I didn’t think Domme paid attention.  But then she mentioned I didn’t make it.   Needless to say I was surprised that she was keeping track.  Her keeping track made me a little nervous.  If she wanted to she could have disciplined me, made me cleanup, or threatened cage time, for failing to obey her command.  In the future, as her confidence grows, I know it will amuse her to make me pay for cumming early/late.  That is part of the fun of D/s.  The larger point is that Discipline is fun for both dominant and submissive; as well as being useful for modifying  s/Hubby’s behavior.




Punishment is not play, nor fun for s/Hubby.  When punishing, the sexual component is reduced; thus the cartoon on the left.  The most scary thing is that surveys have shown that most wives (including vanilla marriages) want to be able to punish their husbands.   Uh oh . . D/s wives have a huge unfair advantage over vanilla wives!

One survey in particular showed that over 85%  of wives wanted to be able to punish there husbands.  Who said wives aren’t naturally dominate?  Scary!  The form of punishment by the majority of wives is usually non-violent. For now Domme is usually one of these.

Nonetheless, I must say the picture on the right is very powerful to me.  His submission, and her power, can be felt.  Just looking at that picture one can feel what is about to happen.  It’s definitely a turn on.


Non-violent Punishment

So for us, on the rare occasion when Domme decides to punish me, she will probably use a form of discipline (from above) but with more intensity.  Of course who knows what else she may think of?  Evening Cage Time may be her go-to tool.  Also, Ass Cleaning Punishment is commonly used in D/s to really put s/Hubby in his place.  Instead of D/s play where s/Hubby licks her ass after she has had a bath –  now she has not had a bath and she is dirty and s/Hubby is not going to want to do it.  The sexual component is gone.  The power at work here is humiliation.  It is best served up hot while Domme is still mad.


As an example, imagine s/Hubby starts pushing Domme’s buttons.  Domme who has become physically angry has had enough and decides to shut her bitch’s pie-hole.  She stands up and begins to unbutton her pants while telling her bitch, “get on your fucking knees.”  She kneels on the couch backwards and makes him clean her ass. In the end she has the emotional release of having shut her bitch’s mouth while putting him in his place.  Her bitch on the other hand is left: well punished (humiliated), on his knees, and with the taste of ass in his mouth – lesson learned !   To finish she can add an exclamation point and make him ‘thank her’ before telling him to go gargle.

Post 6 Lazy Domme

Forced Self Pleasure

I never would have thought it, but the majority of wives surveyed said they enjoyed the thought of watching their husbands masturbate for them.  Of course, it is also a part of D/s play.  The difference is that the wife is fully clothed and s/Hubby is naked on his knees before her.  This makes for quite a power exchange.


Lazy Domme

Hmm . . . I fear that my Domme is sexually lazy.  I don’t want to cum alone.  I could see her using this during the week to not have sex.  She’ll tell me to get on my knees and pleasure myself for her – just so I won’t be a bother.  Here’s the rub, she can make me do it for any reason she wants.   Her bitch has no say.  In D/s play he is there for her pleasure and must obey.  Domme makes the rules.



Forcing Self Pleasuring is classic D/s play.  The reason being is most people have never masturbated in front of their partner.  It’s humiliating.  If you add in she’s dressed and s/Hubby is naked on his knees before her, then it is even more humiliating.  It makes her husband very vulnerable to her.  There is a huge power exchange going on.  Also, because he must do it any time of the day on her command it will greatly reinforce the fact that he is her bitch.  So this could be quite fun for Domme.  It can be used as a form of discipline (See Post 5) to train him.  In the video the red haired slave is made to put hear hands on her head afterwards to expose her swollen genitals to her Dom for his viewing pleasure, an added humiliation – nice touch.

In the last picture you can see the interest in the blonde’s face as she watches while the slaves are ordered to masturbate for their pleasure.  Hmm, maybe the surveys are right about what wives like?

Post 7 Cleanup

D/s Wives

Studies have shown that in marriages where one partner is dominate they have a higher rate of satisfaction and significantly less strife.  When both partners are equal there is always the opportunity for an impasse with no easy way to settle it, and so tensions will prevail.  With a dominant partner, they can discuss things as a couple, but both partners know the dominant partner gets the final say.  These studies bode well for a D/s marriage.

I have read that wives who engage in D/s play come to enjoy expressing their dominate side.  No surprise there.  It turns out the wives like their new position.  D/s becomes a part of the marriage, not just the bedroom.  The wives like being greeted at the door with a glass of wine, having their feet rubbed, having their husband seek approval on decisions, and they like having the final say.

One surprising fact is that 53% of all wives want their husbands to openly acknowledge to them that they are the head of the household.  Well, 100% of all D/s wives can just make him say it; and if she prefers, while on his knees after kissing her asshole just to make a point!

My wife is dominate but hasn’t yet acknowledged it to herself.  She clearly has a very strong will.  With D/s we can discuss things but as Domme she will have the final say; including the decision inside and outside the bedroom.



Our own D/s Power Exchange

In a D/s power exchange the wife gets the power.   However, a Domme is obligated to be attuned to her s/Hubby and his needs.  After all she loves him.

In our marriage I want a stronger connection that includes sexual energy outside of the bedroom.  Thus D/s play allows her to tease and dominate me sexually during the day in addition to our normal interactions.

She can do simple things like: making me kiss her ass/pussy to show respect,  make me rest my nose on her asshole while she watches TV, at random ask me dominating questions (eg. When do you kiss my ass?), scent mark me, wear the cock cage with only a shirt for her viewing pleasure, etc..  This is all to tease me, keep the sexual energy, and make my dick hard.  And as Domme she’ll make my dick hard without letting me release so much as one drop of cum until she gives permission.

How much teasing is Domme’s decision but I need to cum at least twice a week.  I have read accounts of Domme’s making s/Hubby’s wait weeks and months for release but for me this would only build resentments.







“Cum – Is what a Domme makes her bitch swallow”


If s/Hubby is going to submit to her then he must swallow for her.  Making s/Hubby cleanup the mess is a classic part of D/s.  It is commonly ordered by wives who have taken up D/s play.  It is about real domination.  Make no mistake, it is the ultimate submission to her; that is why so many wives come to demand it.

After orgasm neither partner has strong sexual urges and the husband loses the desire to cleanup.   But the wives like their new dominant position.  The Domme wife likes dominating him and wants him to be obedient to her.  So she impresses upon her husband that D/s doesn’t stop with orgasm.

Cleanup really must be enforced.  If being Domme is real then the domination must be real. Otherwise she’ll lose his respect.  It is about her enjoying the power and control of being Domme over her bitch. Cleanup isn’t to satisfy the husband, but instead, it’s to satisfy her. It’s about requiring the ultimate submission to her. . . every time she fucks.








Our Cleanup (Chicken)

I am a bit chicken but otherwise submissive to her.  So before I finish I’ll put a towel under her bottom so the cum can run out on the towel.  Then when she orders me to ‘cleanup’ I’ll submit and finish cleaning the residue of our cum from her hole and  asshole with my tongue.

She can relax on a clean bed, with a clean pussy, while her s/Hubby goes and gargles.

However, in the end she has the final say, and at times she may have reason for making her bitch swallow it all (eg. punishment, discipline, domination, amusement).  So if she orders me to “swallow it like a girl,”  I will obey her with no questions asked – just submission.



Cleanup Enforced by a Firm Domme


Post 8 Domme at Play



Domme milking her bitch (ruined orgasm) to reduce horniness.











 Guess which one has to obey?






Dommes amusing themselves . .



 filling their bitch’s bellies!



Don’t move  . . .  and keep that mouth of yours open

More domination . . .


                 Bitches servicing their Domme’s Asses



                 How’s it taste?






Shhh, I own you . . so I can piss on you.




Cage Time  – to train Domme’s preferred behaviors into her bitch.


Domme’s bitch enjoying the whip and her pussy


s/Hubby  =  Two Hole Bitch.

And both holes are Domme’s property !


More . .

          Don’t let him up till his balls are empty


Showing her bitch what that hole is for.





























Orgasm Control/Domination



Below Domme is milking her bitch.  The orgasm is unsatisfactory so the bitch is left horney.  In the video when she senses he is close she starts yelling at him (treating him like a bitch) telling him to empty his balls.  He obeys and cums for her amusement.  The bitch has no say on when he is milked.  She owns him and thus owns his orgasm.  She, and only she, decides when his balls are to be emptied and how often.


Post 9 Musings

11/23/2017   Confused Domme?

Wifey has been going back and forth on who should be submissive.  In D/s play Domme either dominates or the play turns against her and she becomes the submissive.  My submissive  s/Wifey  will have to get on her knees, pull her tits out, and suck cock when told.  She’ll have to obey, show submission, and sleep with the cum in her belly!   I found the following illustrations humorous and instructive of her future:



11/26/2017   Keyholder

Wifey seems to have settled on staying Domme (see below).  Maybe she discovered “cum” is what a Domme makes her bitch swallow.  And so she would rather make her s/Hubby do the cleanup.  And lately, she has been asking to be a Keyholder.  Hmm, controlling his cock and making s/Hubby submit to her holes is a big turn for a Domme and now it may be for Wifey.  When she is ready to be respected I think she will grow into this.




11/28/2017   Rule 1:  Our Greeting (Show Respect).

Yesterday Domme made her first Rule.  When we come together and greet each other I must show respect.  So when she clicks her fingers while pointing . . .  I am expected to show respect and kiss her asshole.

Of course she doesn’t demand this, so her rules don’t mean much right now. However, things may change when she actually enjoys making me submit to her.  A real wife who enjoys being Domme uses her ass to dominate and expects her s/Hubby to kiss it when told.  I’ll know she has accepted being Domme when she uses her ass, when she demands respect on a daily basis.






2/10/2018  Keyholder’s Night Out  (4 Parts)

Domme takes a bath before dinner and then comes to the kitchen.

I.  Ass worship

She looks at her s/Hubby, clicks her fingers, and points to her asshole.   S/Hubby gets on his knees, exposes her asshole, and kisses it.  Domme then says, “taste it!”  He slowly licks her asshole filling his mouth with the taste of her ass.  They then leave for dinner with Domme purposely forcing her bitch to keep her taste in his mouth.


II.  Tease

While driving Domme puts her hand on the back of s/Hubby’s neck to assert dominance and tease him.

She asks:               “When do you taste my ass?”

s/Hubby replies:     “When you tell me to”

Domme smiles, she can put the ‘taste of her ass’ in his mouth at any moment, whenever she wants.  She will then make him keep that taste in his mouth for as long as she wants to tease and control him –  all for her amusement.


III.  Bedroom

When they get home Domme cums in one of her three favorite ways:

1) s/Hubby eats her pussy to orgasm,

2) they 69 with her bitch’s nose on her asshole as she cums in his mouth, or

3) with him inside her and playing with her tits while she cums around his cock.

After cumming, Domme orders her bitch to cleanup her cum.  She then fucks her bitch till satisfied.  s/Hubby is not allowed to cum when he wants, but only when Domme tells him to; including when masturbating for her.  Domme enjoys making her bitch orgasm and so she finishes with making him empty his balls on her command.


IV.  Cleanup & Dominance

When she is done fucking, and her pussy finishes dripping cum, she asserts her dominance and whispers, “cleanup.”  While her bitch collects the residue of their cum from her hole she says with great dominance, “let me hear you swallow it.”

Finally, Domme reminds her bitch, “don’t forget my asshole.”  She then grabs her tits and moans while her bitch licks her asshole clean..

            Domme enjoying cleanup                                   Making her bitch clean her well fucked pussy

Cleanup is the ultimate showing of submission to a Domme.  This is why wives who control their s/Hubby’s absolutely require they lick the cum out of their pussy’s after they fuck; it enforces submission and respect at a very deep level.  So, after he finishes gargling she rubs her bitch’s belly to remind him that when Domme is done fucking –  her bitch is gonna swallow cum, no exceptions!



02/07/2018   Real Wives (and their bitches)

A real wife/Domme (Dorinda) who blogs about her experiences:  

OMG How many times did I cum

A reply I Posted on an other Femdom Blog

Thinking of him serving me




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