As with a lot of marriages ours has become ‘sexually vanilla’ and a bit cold over the years. We lack passion in our relationship. Being intimate for a few minutes once or twice a week with nothing else leaves us unconnected. She works a lot and that too can kill intimacy, but it doesn’t have to. We need something that helps us maintain a connection throughout the day, even though we’re apart for most of it.
To that end a D/s relationship with daily encounters, however short, can be intimate and sexual and thus reinforce the intimate connection between us while at the same time being fun. It is the psychological and emotional connection that is important. Several times a day we can interact with a sexual component, a little sparkle, that says I’m enjoying you and later this week we’ll consummate that feeling.
So why D/s? For one thing Domination /submission will increase the intensity of our relationship. It is easy and fun; and most importantly takes minimal effort on her part. Most importantly, from the moment Wifey becomes Domme she has 100% say over what we do; no more pressure from s/Hubby. She’ll be boss, free to try out her fantasies, and make me do unspeakable things. In return, I will enjoy being the object of her desires. And the fact that her desires are now dominant and twisted should make for interesting passion. I love my wife and would enjoy serving her. So why not let me?
This blog is more about my thoughts on our D/s interactions, on fulfilling her desires. From the moment Wifey declares she is my Domme I no longer have a say on our activities. I’ll merely be writing on my feeling and thoughts on Domme’s choices in this blog; but just this one time let me suggest a daily ritual to kick things off. A quick intimate moment where we enjoy this D/s power play at a few key points of the day:
- evenings when she comes home, and
- before going to bed
At these times of the day Domme requires a showing of respect by making me kiss it. And “It” can be:
- her feet,
- her pussy,
- her ass, or
- her asshole (after every bath).
For her part this ritual only requires that she Make the Command. She can then smile and enjoy my act of sexual submission to her – with no more effort on her part. So, Wifey must ask herself: Does she enjoy being Domme? Does she like the thought of making s/Hubby ‘do it’ when she gives a sexually dominate command? Will she officially say and declare that: From this moment forward I am your Domme and you will obey me!
From this day forward it is up to her 🙂